Victim vs Strength Part 1
So how do you know if someone is putting you down or you feel bad about yourself?
If you don’t ask the question, you’ll never get the answer.
And maybe it’s mixed, so you have to break it down to understand your perspective and their perspective. Otherwise, you might put your garbage onto someone else, instead of diving into the complexity of it.
You can learn to grow through pain. And you can learn how to help the other person grow (if they are open to that).
If they are not open to it, you need to understand what’s going on so that you can protect yourself, but also change the part within you too!!!!!
Nothing happens randomly. So you have SOME part that needs to change. Even if you are just growing your patience because someone else is affecting you. Then you have an opportunity to learn how to make yourself less upset if you don’t get what you want, when you want it. Or you learn how to make someone else happy. Both paths take a lot of effort, but it is totally worth it.
Because then you’re no longer a victim. You’re actually a helper. A strong person. A bigger person. A person who can now calm yourself down. You can now help someone else who is weak and struggling because you overcome your own impatience and annoyances. You can now give advice to another person who is experiencing difficulty. Lastly you can overcome your own reasons not to do something. You need to protect yourself but sometimes we have a good reason not to help the other person. If you have a good reason not to help, but you help anyways, that’s truly a high level of strength. You can actually make a difference in the world by changing yourself.
If you want support in this process, contact me.